I agree with you Carolyne, you are alone to take your own decision and if you are not feeling well in your skin and if you want to lose weight or anything else you as the right to do it. Maybe your hubby doesn't want you to lose weight because he met you as you are and he loves you like that...but he can not stop you to lose weight.

tell him about it!! And show him how this state is making you sick and how you wish to lose weight!! if he loves you he'll be able to understand and agree just for your happiness....Somehow i wonder whether you're exagerating.... soory for being so indiscreet but could you tell us how much do weight????? if you have a proportionate one i could definitely understand why he opposes your losing them!!

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Well Caro!! You asked the question and yet you've got the response as well
!! I can’t make out why you posted this if you have already got the answer!! Do affirm yourself and make your husband understand that once for all!! If he loves you he should be able to get it!!

Carolyne did you talk to him? How did it go? I sure hope that you guys managed to talk it over and came to a conclusion that will satisfy the both of you. I never though of chosing as a great power and now that you have put this to my attention I have to say that you are absolutely right about it. But don't forget that sometimes when we chose we may act selfishly so when you chose something chose wisely. But the choice that you are making right now is a very wise choice

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Well Caro I think that you shouldn't neglect these feelings of your husband though!! Were you that fat when you met each other?? He might be used to see you with your current weight and might get some difficulty to adjust! He may not be capable to get used to the forthcoming change! I think that all these can be resolved if you talk to each other honestly!!

In love, when there is a problem, the simplest thing to do is to sit and have an honest talk. Now, I think it’s you and only you who have the right to decide whether you should lose weight or not. As you have said you want to lose weight and I suppose it’s because you are not feeling well the way you are and whereas your husband who is against. From my point of view you can’t just say that you’ll remain as you are only to please your husband it’s not the best thing to do I think

There is a saying that goes kind of like this: "Love sees no color, and love is blind" Your hubby is happy with you not because of how you look but because of who you are. Losing weight is not going to make him leave you it will mostl likely make him happy that you want to take care of your body and health so I say go for it.

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Well I don't know about the saying but Bouff has a point. No matter what you also have to think for yourself and not only for others. What will make you happier lose weight or remain the way you are. I am sure that he will understand you. If you are afraid that he might get mad talk to him and tell him why you need to lose weight. Besides if he really loves you he will support you till the end

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The thing here carolyne is that you need to tell your partner about your problem and you both decide what to do next. I am sure he wants you to be happy so there should not be any problem. We have the power to chose and we also have the power to communicate with others.

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